Loud and belligerent...yes, it is abusive but not in a physical way. Argumentative, opinionated, full of hurtful criticisms. Mostly this is done in a joking way often in front of an audience. It seems as though he forgets all boundaries and it becomes excruciatingly embarrassing for me and others who witness it.
He can be angry too but this is less frequent and only in blackout. Again not physical but he shouts, makes unreasonable accusations and becomes demanding sexually.
And I've never admitted that to anyone before. It seems so disloyal.