My wife and I are both sober. The commitment to do so was like getting re-married. I do SR and the occasional meeting and she just does life sober. I will say that I was willing to do it alone if it came down to that as we were very practiced at supporting each other in drunkenness and all the co-dep that goes with THAT. We ARE doing it but it's no easy task. Best wishes on saving yourself. If your partner is willing to live sober (no matter what) then it's just life stuff.