Originally Posted by
pigeonhead 
It almost seems like it would be twice as difficult rather than a source of mutual support because the ways people deal with addiction vary so much from one to another.
It's not going to be easy no matter how you slice it. The opposite can be just as difficult ( one partner in recovery, one actively drinking and not in recovery ).
However, it IS possible for you to get sober no matter what happens with your husband if you commit to it. If you do some reading around here and on the friends and family forum you'll see that many people get sober with or without the support of their spouse/partner. It's really all about you and what YOU are willing to do. What your partner/spouse does or doesn't do is largely beyond your control anyway.