Wow -
Pigeonhead - Frankly it sound to me like two people who might like some sobriety but really are not serious about it. We both slipped (chose to drink) this week - He thinks you're not committed - His brother brings Whiskey at Xmas??!!
For me it took a long time to get to the point of being truly ready - no more games. Being ready entailed admitted I was an alcoholic and could never again (one day at a time) drink in a "normal" way. Even when I felt better, I cannot drink - my disease is doing push up and waits......patiently for the time when I think - hey, I can have a drink!
Once I was ready I not only accepted the problem but accepted the solution. Whatever that is for you......
Glad you're here - certainly don't mean this to sound harsh, but are you both truly committed or do you think just really supportive of each other relapses?!?!? We each need to take ownership of our own sobriety.....
Good luck to us all on our journeys.....