Originally Posted by
horsegirl 
Hi Army of One,
I feel your pain , as I am sure many on this forum do. The tricky Dry Drunk syndrome ... Some say no such thing , I say there is, or at least there is some form of mental disorder that closely resembles the alcoholic behaviors. In my case , I could never really believe that my partner could be in the midst of a very strong dry drunk,(sober for 14 years , not going to AA for 10). I finally realized that I was thinking correctly when he started actively drinking. It is not about you , its her war not yours. Detachment in love , we can find peace.
I started weeping as I read your post. I can't win, anything I do, everything I do. Its tossed aside and something new is pointed out.
She has never admitted to the fact that she was addicted, or has never gone to an AA meeting on her own.
I am not saying I am an angel. I have made mistakes and that is why I have been in Al-Anon for the past 3 years but where is her recovery? What is she doing with her side of the street?