I can totally relate to you Matilda. I am the same way...either totally withdraw or stick it out come hell or high water. I think the middle ground is to be assertive, but not aggressive or passive. It took me years to figure out how to be assertive and it still is not easy. If you feel that there is something unethical going on with the people in power, can you speak to them about it in a clear and rational way? If you think it will fall on deaf ears or threaten your job to do so, maybe it is best to detach (but that doesn't mean you are consenting). You must look out for yourself as well!