Personally, I think "couples therapy" is best postponed until after the alcoholic is on solid ground with his or her sobriety. I think it's a mistake for partners to be overly involved in each other's recovery programs. Working on relationship issues can be a distraction from the focus necessary to recover from alcoholism. I say this as someone who's gone through the process with two marriages to alcoholics, and is currently six years sober, myself.
If I were you, I'd check out Al-Anon.