OK, so what are you DOING? Are you going to Al-Anon? That can be a huge help in getting the focus off his program by giving you one of your own.
Do they expect you to meet for these family meetings every week? THAT sounds a bit burdensome. Once a month even sounds like a lot, to me. And yes, I agree that having him pledge to you each day that he will remain sober sounds inappropriate. You can tell him you don't want a daily verbal commitment, you want to see action and results. He can call his counselor or sponsor every day if he needs to be accountable for something like that.
You have a voice in this--use it. You don't have to just meekly go along with what his counselor wants (or what he wants)--his recovery is his business, and the more you stick to your own, the better off you will be.