Originally Posted by
firebolt 
Wow - words I needed to hear today.
Horsegirl just wanted to chime in support. My recovery is making my ABF VERY uncomfortable... I am detaching even more. I can see how easily it would be for myself to be in your exact situation....which at this point sounds like a very big blessing! Keep up the good work!
Hi Firebolt,
It is so true , as I got healthier he got worse. I will not blame myself and absolutely do not. I guess I was finally
humiliated long enough and started my recovery program. I know I will grieve , however , I am not in bed unconsolable. I was unconsolable a year ago. I now know (I have to keep reminding myself) that his inability to be in a relationship had nothing to do with me , He is an alcoholic, NO alcoholic can truely have a realtionship with anything but thier obssesion with the bottle. I liken it to my obsession with him , I was beyond any help until I finally hit bottom.