It really isn't about how much he loves you. If it was, none of us would be here! He hates himself, he resents your recovery, which is a threat to his addiction. He projects his feelings about himself onto you, and hey, that's a-holery.
Wow - words I needed to hear today.
Horsegirl just wanted to chime in support. My recovery is making my ABF VERY uncomfortable... I am detaching even more. I can see how easily it would be for myself to be in your exact situation....which at this point sounds like a very big blessing! Keep up the good work!