Hi Stiv. Having been on both sides of this fence, being an alcoholic with an active alcoholic husband, I know that talk is cheap. You can't just talk the talk. You have to walk the walk. I was a broken record for years. It was always I know, I know, I have to quit. But I didn't know how. Always tomorrow, never today. I finally made a plan and asked for help. I stuck to that plan.
My husband? He knows how to quit and what to do to stay quit but isn't choosing to do it. Empty promises. I don't believe a word he says anymore and won't, for a long while. He takes no action. Words alone are not enough. You have to quit for you, Not your wife. If you take action and follow through, you will do alright. Hang in there.