I'm so sorry you're in this situation but am glad you found this group, hopedrive! Is your AH supporting his mom financially by putting a roof over her head, etc.? Sounds like she doesn't want to lose the Sugar Son and will be on his side no matter what. If you used to support yourself, you can do so again. Nobody should accept verbal abuse and it WILL escalate with his drinking. Can you do a trial separation so he knows you are setting a boundary and will not accept his abuse any longer? Even though not directed at your kids (yet), please know they are very affected by this.