Feebell, I feel like we are living parallel stories, AM mom in denial and enabler "to a fault" father. I do much better when I focus on my own life, as well. However, my parents are coming to my home for Easter, wheel chair in tow, and I am feeling anxious as hell. I needed the reminder in your post that my parents have little to no concern on how this is affecting me or my family. So, thanks!