Many thanks again for all responses I feel a great deal been lifted just being able to talk to people who understand what it's like.
Seren - my mother is only 54 years old, not old at all and the nurses and doctors in the hospital can see she can take care of herself but she's just not willing too. I'm not sure how care works in the UK as this is the first time ever I've had to deal with one of my parents being admitted to hospital! I feel so lost in all of this.
NWGRIT - thank you so much for your advice, I took a look at ACOA forum and have started reading the threads. I totally understand that I'm not responsible or my mothers caretaker but the guilt I feel for my dad is killing me at the mo
my heads all over the place and I feel like I can make no sense of anything. I just want to go to sleep and wake up in 4 months time as see what the situations like then!