Mrs vain, I'm so sorry you are still going through a lot of hurt. It isn't that you are nothing to him. It is that he knows he is nothing. He doesn't want contact because he knows you and the kids are better off without him. He is also drinking and being selfish and no one knows what goes on in someone else's relationship. You don't know if they are happy or not. If she feels the need to tell you the things she said to you, it seems she has a need to emphasize it. And maybe things are not what she wants you to think. She obviously feels threatened by you and even by your children. She sounds very sick! Look how strong you are and all you are doing raising your children by yourself and keeping a home by yourself. You are doing amazing! And instead of nothing it sounds to me like you are everything! Give yourself a hug and pat on the back and be glad that he is gone!