Originally Posted by
skwgtb 
Is it ever okay to address a sponsor with concerns?
No, I don't think it is. I think I might call a sponsor if he were actually drinking, to see if the sponsor might be able to get him back to a meeting, and back on track--or if he were suicidal or there were a similar emergency. But alerting a sponsor to "dry drunk"-type behavior is out of line, IMO. I've been around AA for a very long time (first husband is sober 35 years, I'm sober six and a half), and I think it would lead to huge resentment from him, and maybe disrupt his relationship with his sponsor. Best to stay out of it.
Well, maybe the counseling will do some good. I didn't mean to suggest you shouldn't try to mend the relationship, if there are good reasons to keep trying. Some people have had success with relationship counseling. I'm just not one of them.