Personally, I wouldn't get too far into that "selfishness" thing intellectually. It can be a real slippery slope doing quite a number on a person's head especially if they come out of abuse which so many of us have. There's a huge difference between the egocentric selfishness usually being addressed in the BB and normal, healthy, self-love. My God wants me to love myself as He does as well as His other children to the best of my ability and does not want me harming them nor allowing them to harm me. Example: Going "no contact" can get to be one confusing mess mentally and emotionally if one sits in judgement of themselves as "selfish" for having to take that measure. I try to handle the subject in terms of what's healthy only because I know how susceptible I am to spinning almost any subject intellectually. I look at motivation toward health... peace and serenity being primary to that.