Hello MrsVain;
I'm so sorry for what brings you here, but you have found a great place for support!
My stepson is an alcoholic and crack addict (well, he'll take anything, really).
When he was hospitalized for detox the first time, the doctors gave him a 50/50 shot to live from a few things, the withdrawal itself (DT's are horrible if you have never had the 'pleasure' of witnessing someone going through them); jaundice (his face and his eyes were the color of Grey Poupon mustard); and alcoholic hepatitis. That particular hospital stay included 1 liter of ascites removed from his abdominal cavity. He was later readmitted for a raging MRSA infection in one of his legs.
Sadly, he continues his drinking career.
I hope that your ex will decide to finally turn his life around. I hope the same for my stepson.
How are YOU doing today MrsVain?