I notice how much time I (and sometimes we - the spouses and significant others) spend talking about the addicts, and how little time we spend talking about ourselves.
For me I am gradually going to begin focusing more and me and speaking about how *I* feel.
Right now I feel a little bit lonely / sad. And I don't feel that attractive.
However I also feel like things are going to be OK.
And sometimes I feel hella angry.