(((hugs)))
Originally Posted by
Katchie 
How many.of you changed your names back to your maiden names and why?
I went back and forth on going back to my maiden name. In fact, I started the divorce saying I'd keep his last name. The main reason behind my thought to keep it was it's DS's last name, too. I didn't want DS or his friends confused that he and I didn't have the same last name.
As the divorce went on, though, I was also working through the rapes and DV with my therapist... And AXH and his family kept pulling stunts regarding visitation.
Then I realized 1. DS's friends simply called me "DS's Mom" or "Ms. Michelle"; and 2. Quite a few of DS's friend's moms have different last names than their kiddos, for various reasons. And then 3. I (finally) got really mad about how AXH treated me. I was done being his wife. Done. Done. Done. I will forever be "DS's Mom", and the last name didn't seem a major part of that. But I would no longer be AXH's wife, so I saw no reason to keep AXH's name any longer.
I'm still so, so glad to have my maiden name back.