I believe it depends on the situation.
No contact is something we do for ourselves, not for the addict. Pretending to believe bold faced lies is enabling though.
I have stayed in contact with AH since he went to prison, but some family members have not. I'm not sure how I would respond if one of his drug tests came back dirty. It's easy for me to say that I would no longer write. It's another matter to actually put the pen down.
I think the danger for me in encouraging AH to pursue recovery has nothing to do with him, but with me. I'm talking about motives here. Am I trying to be the hero? Does it make me feel like I can fix him? Why do I want him to find recovery? Do I really just want him to have a better quality of life? Or are there selfish motives underneath? Do I really just want him to be sober because I think that will give me a better husband?
Food for thought. Just my ESH