I seem to have been attracted to guys who needed me. I was with a guy for 10 years - we got together at 18 years old a few months after his girlfriend was killed in a car crash. He wasn't an alcoholic, but do you think he needed me? Then I got together with my ex A. What more can I say?
I no longer wish to be with someone who is a taker. That's not to say that I won't help people who ask for help, not do I lack compassion. However, I don't want to be with someone who needs me to function. Or that I think needs me to function.
So how do I trust my jundgement on that? Who knows? I'm not ready yet. However, I know to be wary of falling in love very quickly. I know to notice the red flags instead of ignoring them. I know not to base decisions about my future with someone on the basis of "If he...., then....".
Actions, not words, tell me everything I need to know.