Originally Posted by
charis78 
I want an alcoholics/addicts perspective. So can't get a straight answer from him. What would ever possess you to go on a bender the weekend your loved one almost died in surgery instead of being there with them?
I'm sure people smelled alcohol on me at my mother's funeral. No excuses it was because I am an alkie. I suspect your loved one is the same. The obsession with drinking will overide what you know is the right thing to do.