RedDog...breaking the bonds in a relationship are painful whether the relationship was healthy or toxic. You can thank Mother Nature for this---it is to ensure the continuation of the species. Yada Yada Yada.
The best antidote for the selective memory is to make a list of the very worst things that happened in the relationship--especially how bad and hurt y ou felt at the time.
Carry it with you at all times. Read it over and over and remember ow bad it really was!
You may h ave to read dozens of times a day, at first.
Stay busy and structured as humanly possible--that helps a lot.
This is short-term pain for long term gain.
It will pass, in time. Living with an abusive, active alcoholic--the pain goes on forever and gets worse and worse.
dandylion