Originally Posted by
Butterfly 
because he thought I said I would agree to a five year separation and he can't stand over it now, he is adamant that I to,d him this and that I wouldn't involve a solicitor.
That's because he's still drinking, Butterfly. I'm not surprised that he's fuzzy on the details of your conversation.
You gotta do what is right FOR YOU in all of this... I completely agree with you that dragging this out for another year+ is a bad idea for your recovery. You *need* to be able to move forward as soon as possible, IMO. ((((hugs))))