thanks for this post AG. I am getting out of a relationship that lasted 16 months. He was an alcoholic from day 1, I just had no idea how bad it was or the journey I was going to embark on. It was hell. It ripped me apart. The cheating, the lying, the betrayal on every level. I am soo tired from it all. I feel like I have been in a war. and now finally, he is 7 weeks sober. and yes, you got it folks, he dumped me faster than you can say AA. I have been reeling from the loss of him, the loss of myself. where did i go? this became my whole life. and now he is good and expects that we are good and that we can be friends now with no regards to what we have been through. There have been no thank yous, no sorries. in fact, he doesn't understand why we just can't be best friends, must be resentment I have, he says. I am exhausted