Originally Posted by
soberforbaby 
I just cant tell my wife how messed up it all is. I've tried before and she just doesn't get it as a sober non-addictive person.
Drinking 20oz of vodka a day can't be easy to hide, so your wife is probably aware that something is wrong and I suspect that she'd be supportive of your attempts to get sober. She doesn't have to "get it."
You do, though. Halt it now if you can or the facade you have put up will crumble.