Originally Posted by
Marcher13 
Immri, while I appreciate what you are saying about "extreme thinking" and the paranoia we have when we use alcohol, I think that in this case it would have been wiser to set up a boundary in the first place. If you go to bed at 9.30, unless there is a fire or someone is dependent on you, it's really not OK for someone to come in and turn on the light at 11. You have a right to lay in bed dozing, listening to music, sleeping, reading or whatever else without someone interrupting you. I'd lay down a few ground rules (boundaries) with my house mates if I were you. That said I get it on the reactions, we tend to be so extreme when using our DOC.
I do agree to some extent, but it was mainly just a misunderstanding though - I meant if they need me in the next 30 mins max, while I was just resting not sleeping, turn the light on to get my attention. We're normally up and chatting or watching movies at that time, so I didn't have a problem if she still wanted something, though it would have been different if I specifically wanted to be left alone I agree. I definitely didn't mean it was ok to wake me up though, and I'm fairly certain she didn't realise the time. I think I probably should've just been clearer in what I needed.
Thank you for reiterating the need for boundaries though, I'm not so good at that (surprise surprise!) and often feel guilty not being there for everyone 24/7, so this was reassuring in that sense. Thanks!