Originally Posted by
healthyagain 
I just got the reply. Lots of mixed feelings here. I qualify for lower cost and can hire an attorney, but my heart is breaking at the same time. I would love to stay married, I wish he could change. But . . . we know how all that works, don't we?
He can still change even if you divorce or separate, right? It's up to him either way.
You aren't shutting the door on a future, healthy relationship with this person but you are choosing to end
this cycle of dysfunction. (((((hugs)))))