Originally Posted by
trachemys 
haennie, I will try to, and hope I say this right. Forgive me if I don't.
Sometimes, it's not the outcome of actions that matter. It's the action. In this case it isn't the outcome of being with your father. It's being with your father.
Well Trach, haennie can easily speak for herself of course. For me though, I find your implied reasoning offensive. I'm curious how you come to determine in this case how the outcome is less important? Or perhaps you're meaning something I'm not getting?