I used to dread holidays with my family, my sister and her husband and my father all love wine. Once I was honest with them they stopped bringing it and and mentioning it. I am sure they all enjoy it other times but actually the family gatherings have been better and nobody seems to miss it.
If my family members are in control of their drinking they can easily go without wine a few times a year so why not try and help me out but not having it around right?