MesD....you write about power...."how do I take it back and make them realize that this is not the case".
Hon, you can take your power back...but you may never get them to see things your way.
You will have to be willing to let go of other peoples reactions to you. Their reactions are their problem to deal with...and, you have absolutely no control over that.
Don't have to JADE....J--justify A--argue D--defend E--explain.
dandylion