Though I definitely rushed into marriage, I do know him. We share a lot of common goals and beliefs and dreams. When it's good, it's great. It just changes so quickly when alcohol is involved, whether he's drinking it.. or not drinking it but wanting to.
I think a big problem for us is, although he knows he has a problem and admits it... is that he does not see that it has anything to do with our problems. He sees it as a whole separate thing, when it is actually the root of it. As if it's always about my mood or my reactions, never him & the drinking.
I'm sure the "caregiver" in me inadvertently seeked out the alcoholic.