I absolutely like the idea of unconditional love but it means to me that I must accept the person for exactly who and what they are. While there are only extremes I do think it possible I could stop loving my husband or kids. Some things might be unforgivable.
It sounds to me as if you may not even really know this man. You rushed right into marriage. What if he were to get sober and you discovered you have nothing in common?
As a recovering alcoholic I just want you to know that for many of us who do find recovery it doesn't happen until we have laid waste to just about everything in our lives. Including causing great emotional harm to our families.