Thanks everyone. It's nice to read your comments. It was a very difficult and emotional confrontation. I got two things out of it; 1) apology 2) the truth. It started back 6 months ago and has ramped up to 4/5 days a week the last 2 months. I was shocked. Still shocked.
I asked him to pack an overnight bag and he's gone to his family's house.
I don't know what tomorrow will bring, or the next year or so on. I just know I need to sit with my thoughts.
Everyone had great thoughts and advice. I'll probably read them over again in a bit.
The lying. The bold-face lying. Makes me exhausted thinking about it.