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Old 03-11-2015, 01:39 PM
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theuncertainty
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Sending hugs, Understand.

There are times that I really wish I'd listened to my body and anxiety when I was planning my wedding to AXH and called it off.... Please know that even up to the second the pastor/priest/minister/officiant asks you "Do you...?" you are free to say "No, I do not," and walk. Well, even if you've said "yes," you can end the marriage, it just takes more (and different kinds of) work.

Drinking every night for 4 weeks is a bit more than a lapse and there is no guarantee that it will just pass. The only thing that is certain is *now.* He's drinking every day *now.* He's not acknowledging it *now.* IMO, that last doesn't bode well for a future change.

Talking out the issues always helps me figure out what I need (or want) to do. What do you need to help you work through this?
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