And why would you not hate him drinking, and what is exactly so lovable about it? Cutting it down does not equal sober, not even close.
This is like when my AH husband says, "I am doing wonderful, I am cutting it down, but just in case, I am going to buy a bit more today." And then he drives off to another town on a wonderful Sunday sunny morning to buy some whiskey because all liquor stores are closed in our city on Sunday.
Yes, a part-time husband, as redatlanta says. That's what makes us mad.