Originally Posted by
mtk 
They are all adults (over 21). They avoid him a lot, which of course he puts his own spin on the reasons. They are very open with me when he isn't around. They are very afraid to confront or upset him.
Yeah, that sounds familiar. I was terrified of confrontation. As an adult child of an alcoholic attending Alanon meetings and working the steps really helped me to deal with those feelings.