Originally Posted by
mtk 
Thanks for the welcome. It feels like a relief to have someone to talk to. My stepchildren are really the only ones who know and it doesn't feel right discussing my marriage with them, or putting any more of their dad's problems on them than they have already.
How are they coping with their father's drinking? Would it be possible to take them to an Alateen meeting or therapy? I grew up with an alcoholic father and it has had far-reaching effects in my life well into adulthood.
They need to understand that their father's problems are not their problems and have a safe place to talk. That would have made all the difference in the world to me.