RedAtlanta- That is my full intention. The ring, his total lack of effort in this separation (the point was to try to "start over"), and the double life, the lies, the sneakiness.
And yes...two different sets of rules. I feel like a throwaway wife, that I served one purpose (the punching bag/taker of responsibility) and it really hurts, but the thought of even attempting to go back to a "real" married life...makes me queasy. It simply can never happen. Too much damage done. And I'd just be setting myself up for more. Just being in my own place with my kids...life's been good. Emotionally...I've got work to do to get back to balance. Day to day...I can breathe. Things are already better without him.