I just re-read and didn't catch the part about Alanon being 3 hours after work. I do think it might help to get some sort of face to face support. And I commend you on the physical exercise, that is great for the body and the mind! You are making progress!!! You will get through this. It just seems the involvement with his family is holding you back. Only you can decide what is best for you, not trying to tell you what to do, though. Take care!