Oh my no! You should be much more attended to!
Delete me if I'm over-stepping here, but if she has always been like this, it is no wonder you have found yourself as a codependent! The guilt for asking for anything would do the trick to any child to make him/her feel as if their feelings weren't valid. Sorry FTS! I can relate on a smaller scale, and maybe that's why I have this perspective. But regardless, a resounding NO to your question. btw, we should all probably beef up our support systems outside of these dysfunctional relationships. I have found that sooooo necessary in my life!