You know, here's one sentence I never thought I'd ever say to anyone: "I'm glad the police came to your house last night."
But I am.
It seems you stumbled upon the same kind of good, solid, thoughtful law enforcement folks that I dealt with when I left my ex. They don't want to see people suffering like you are, and I'm glad they were respectful and gave you credit for the stability you have in yourself despite the mayhem that's surrounding you.
I'm glad you got a night to yourself. I think it's Iris time. You've given so much to your family for so long. It's time to take care of you. Someone posted this Irma Kurtz quote on Facebook today, and when I read your post, I had to look it up again. It said, Givers need to set limits, because takers rarely do.
I pray for wisdom and guidance for you. Strength, you already have in spades. Now use it for yourself. ((((hugs))))