Originally Posted by
NYCDoglvr 
It doesn't matter what he's done, it's you who is acting out inappropriately, trying to get his attention and maintain the relationship. If it's what you want, you're certainly headed in the right direction. If not, I recommend Alanon.
I don't see how I'm acting out to get his attention and maintain the relationship here?
More like I'm looking for "evidence" that I'm correct about him and more reasons to leave him (though I've got, and have had more than enough - to me that's the crazy part of me in this)
Al-anon, yes, have been there. This isn't my first rodeo with him & all of this. I can't get out to meetings now so now I'm doing online meetings.