Hi and welcome.
This site has a forum ”friends and family.” Very aptly named tho I read some lingo from the great Program of Al Anon.
Being an alcoholic with some time sober I shutter each time I hear people say “I was only hurting myself.” What self centered BS!
I feel especially saddened for the children living in a active alcoholic household as they learn more from observing than the spoken word. There are an immense number of speakers over the years who have stated that while growing up they swore to never be like their alcoholic parent.
I think you’re doing the right thing.
BE WELL