What is hard for me to understand about myself - is why do I always feel a little surprised or shocked that he lies -- even about the smallest things? When I know everything he says is false. Can't drop the kids off on time...some reason that is obviously no true...and I just have to turn and know he can sit in that world. I used to make sure he knew the truth but what is the point anymore. If he listened and got real help things would be really different.