It seems like he is trying to dig at me anyway he can to justify his behavior.
Standard alcoholic procedure. If everything is your fault then he never has to look at his own behavior, and can continue to justify his drinking.
An awesome thing that happened to me was he kept telling my how he doesn't recognize me anymore and has no idea who I am anymore....well.....my 13 year old daughter overheard and told me mom it's because you are stronger
Now that's recovery! You are setting a great example for your daughter. Good job mama.