I had posted more, lost it...Yeah, this will be the hardest thing I ever do. I think my toolbox of recovery is as complete as it can be for now. I have a loving husband and grown daughter and we limit the crazy our extended family can throw at us. Oldest daughter here, too, and was farmed out to relatives who needed care even as a young girl. I am GOOD at care-taking, just not when my boundaries are in danger. SSOOO aware of what the alcoholic and the codie can do to family dynamics, and isn't that half the trick?