Zoso and Vale .... so true
Aurora ... please read the stickies about codependency. It's not easy reading but it may help you. I wish you peace with this. Each person finds the truth when they are ready. I think we can sense that you are not yet. And that's okay so long as you are safe and able to manage.
We have all been where you are. And want nothing but good things for each other. We wish we could spare you the pain that we went through but we can be here and listen and offer advice/thoughts as often as you need to post.
Please take care of aurora.
Hugs,
JOIE