Thanks everyone for your thoughts. Interesting DOP, I didn;t pick up on my Freudian slip about blowing up because he stopped drinking becuase of his gout. I think it was mostly because I am overwelmed, but I have to agree that I was probably annoyed becuase he stopped for a selfish reason.
But he went drinking again yesterday so the reprieve was temporary. I am not that disappointed because I knew it was coming. But it was nice having a sober adult in the house for a week or so. He is quite nice, funny, tolerant, and loving when he is sober. One day at a time...................